What If Your Best Wins Didn't Require the Slog?
It Means I've Done the Hard Work Already
Lots of my clients are "Hyper-Achievers."
They hit their targets, then set ever higher goals.
Never quite enjoying the sweetness of each win as it's reached.
It's absolutely exhausting.
As a Hyper-Achiever myself, three books later :) I completely identify.
But it involves challenging assumptions about success.
The biggest assumption?
"Things only get done with hard work."
The Exercise That Changed Everything
I asked Marsha, my client and a Hyper-Achiever, to write a list of wins that were completely out of the blue.
Wins that weren't a hard slog to reach.
Sound familiar?
Within minutes of me asking, she had created a list.
Marsha saw how many of her biggest wins didn't come from "slogging it out" at all.
1. Being headhunted for roles she hadn't applied for.
2. Being asked to lead teams she'd previously thought too big for her.
3. Being asked to present at events she would have loved to attend—let alone present for.
I asked what this all meant for her.
She laughed: "It means I've done the hard work already!"
The Recognition She'd Never Owned
Marsha continued: "I've networked, I've delivered well for my teams and I've mentored great talent who now recommend me to the new organisations to which they move."
She could identify multiple opportunities she'd had because her reputation had preceded her.
It was a realisation she'd never owned as a feeling before.
This felt like a lightbulb moment.
A recognition she could take her foot off the pedal and enjoy what she'd created.
Things didn't always need to be so hard.
What About Your Wins?
For me, this started by realising my most lucrative piece of work came through a mentor's recommendation that made me the "obvious" choice.
I'd never even heard of the organisation.
So I was hardly working hard on 'beating down their door.'
What challenging assumptions about success would actual evidence give you?
Ready to challenge the assumptions driving you to exhaustion?
Email me at suzanne@doylemorris.com for a complimentary chemistry call.
We'll explore your biggest challenge and whether a 12-month coaching partnership makes sense for you.
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Yes, your company will likely pay for this and I can help you through that goal.
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About Dr. Suzanne Doyle-Morris
Dr. Suzanne Doyle-Morris is an ICF Master Certified Coach (MCC) with a PhD from the University of Cambridge focusing on women in Engineering.
For 25 years, she's coached accomplished women in STEM as they advance to senior leadership.
She's the author of three books: "Beyond the Boys' Club: Strategies for Achieving Career Success as a Woman Working in a Male Dominated Field," "The Con Job: Getting Ahead for Competence in a World Obsessed with Confidence," and "Female Breadwinners: How They Make Relationships Work and Why they are Future of the Modern Workforce."
80% of her clients secure promotions or stretch roles within 12 months.
Not because she gives advice, but because she asks the right questions.
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